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10 things that have helped to grow my self-confidence.

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                 You've seen your favorite singer engaging thousands of fans at a live concert. Have you ever wondered how they did it? You've seen your favorite sports person collecting medals after medals. Have you ever wondered how they did it? You've seen hundreds of women competing for the title of miss universe and miss world. Have you ever wondered how they did it, with such confidence, boldness, and class? Every day we see people out there doing what they need to do.  To some, it may seem effortless but it's not always an easy feat.  I've listened to many motivational speakers and I've done quite a few readings on how to become more confident, but the truth is with all the advice that I've garnered from these people. It all comes down to one person, and that person is me.    '' Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.'' Helen Keller We all have our insecurities! How many times did you fall off you

Five lessons I've learned from the ingratitude of others.

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  I've often heard parents lamenting how ungrateful their children are, and children have also echoed the same sentiment. The act of ingratitude isn't anything new and all of us can relate to this in one way or the other. Maybe it's a spouse who doesn't appreciate anything that you do for them. Maybe it's a boss who never gives you credit for your hard work. Maybe it's a friend who walked out on you because you weren't available this time around, etc.  How do you deal with those who have expressed their ingratitude towards you? How do you handle the ingratitude of those whom you have done everything for? I can't say that this is an easy feat, but I will encourage you to keep these things in mind. Always give without expecting anything in return because not everyone will appreciate the value of your sacrifices and it doesn't matter if you've placed yourself last so that their life can be better. It's just the way it is. Not everyone has the sa

The ultimate betrayal (Poem)

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                                                     The ultimate  betrayal How will I ever slay this beast, If those who should plea my cause, Keeps severing my peace, It's all her fault, It's what she wanted, Don't believe anything she says, It's all a lie, How will I ever slay this beast, When my perpetrator's ego, Is of more value than my peace, They've turned their ears from hearing from my truth, They've hated me instead, I'm the perpetrator, they're the victim, Just a dose of my truth is too loud for their ears, It’s too bitter for them to digest, It’s not welcomed in their space, Yet, all these years I’ve kept it bottled within me, All the pain, guilt, and shame! Night and day, I’ve wrestled with this beast, But I’ve never found the strength that, Could set me free, From the fear that they wouldn’t believe me, Yet still, I thought, that with their help,  We could slay this beast, I’ve heard the truth makes you free, But they showed me no merc

Stories of love, pain, mindfulness and healing (Haiku Poems).

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  What is Haiku? If you are unfamiliar with Haiku style poetry, it is a Japanese poem of seventeen syllables, in three lines of five, seven, and five, traditionally evoking images of the natural world.   What is a syllable? It is  a unit of pronunciation having one vowel sound, with or without surrounding consonants, forming the whole or a part of a word; for example, there are two syllables in  water  (wa-ter) and three in  inferno (in-fer-no). A Haiku poem has a total of seventeen syllables. B elow I've captured five stories of love, pain, mindfulness, and healing using this amazing style of poetry.  1. God God gave me His love, I gave Him my whole heart back, It belongs to Him!     2.  Depression  Underneath the smile, There is a familiar face, Crying out for help! Photo: Fernando Cabra Pexels. 3. Us I remember when, Nothing could come between us, We were happier! 4. Nature Embracing nature, Somewhere peaceful, time alone, Sheer reminiscent. 5. Healing Time brought me healin

Heartbroken (Poem)

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          How many times have we not taken the necessary steps to heal our hurt before distributing our brokenness to innocent people? How many times have we broken the hearts of those who really care about us, simply because we are too broken to give them real love in return? How many times have we not taken enough time to do our own introspection to find out if another relationship is what we really need, or just some time to sort ourselves through, before hitting another rebound? How many times have we given our brokenness to those who don't deserve it, only to make them broken like ourselves? I wrote this poem as I reflected on a relationship I had. At the time, I was dealing with a series of betrayal, disappointment, and immense hurt. It was nothing like I'd imagined. It was as if I was a tree that had been battered by a violent storm. Depleted, ruined, bent low! All I wanted was for the pain to end. In trying to fix my own hurt, I ended up hurting someone else because the

How I challenge myself from doing better to doing my best.

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  I remember listening to a sermon by Dr. Myles Munroe, he said, ''our greatest threat is our last success.'' It was something to think about. What do you do after God has answered your prayers? What do you do after your grades have improved and your parents are pleased with the results? What do you do after you've realized that you're in for a huge promotion? What do you do after you've got the man or woman of your dreams? What do you do when life is finally treating you well? Do you now say that this is it and relax? The truth is, there's always more room for growth and improvement. If you become complacent when you're doing well, you'll never see the need to do better. You'll never see the need to strive for your best. You'll never see a reason why you should give your all. ''Discipline is choosing between what you want now, and what you want most.'' Abraham Lincoln   How do you not allow yourself to become caught up in

Avoid repeating these 5 phrases if you don't want your dreams to die.

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    I read a quote by Tony Gaskins, "Build your dreams, or someone else will hire you to help build theirs.'' It couldn't get any more serious than this. The truth is, if you aren't building your dreams, you are building someone else's. It's as simple as that. Many will say to you that they wanted to do this and that with their life but they didn't get the opportunity, so they had to settle for whatever they are doing now. If you choose to settle with what you are currently doing you'll never fulfill your dreams. If it is that you must take an alternate route in reaching your dreams. You must always remember that your journey doesn't end there, and you should never get to the point where you believe that you must settle there. Let it be a means to an end and not the end itself.  I'm quite familiar with situations where persons have accepted a part-time job to aid with their tuition fees. Only to end up making the job permanent and forget abo

Family quotes

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  Having the right people in your corner is one of the greatest blessings you could ever have in life.  Those who make you laugh! Those who find the time to listen. Those who are always willing to give a helping hand. Those who have your best interest at heart, whether you're related or not. Sadly, there are many times when we neglect those who care about us most and we take their sacrifices for granted. The only persons who would go to the end of the earth for us. The only faces we know when we are sick. The only persons who we can count on whenever we are in need. We take them for granted. It's such a shame that sometimes we don't even give them a moment of our time. It's such a shame that we sometimes forget that they are the nucleus of our support system. It's such a shame that sometimes we are the source of their greatest pain. It's such a shame that we only talk about how important they were to us when the cruel hands of death take them away.  If you have