10 things I did to protect my peace of mind.
We've only got one life to live and once it's done, it's done. However long your time on earth shall last, be sure that you make the most of it. No one can live your life for you. It's yours to live to the fullest. The sooner you've come to realize this the more you'll do everything in your power to ensure that you're living your best life.
I've realized that my life is short and there are people and things that I'm never going to allow to shorten my life on earth or destroy my peace of mind. Below are ten things I did to protect my peace of mind. If you should ask me, I have no regrets and I will do them again.
''When you make peace with yourself, you make peace with the world.'' Maha Ghosananda
1. Pray more, worry less.
No problem has ever been solved through worrying. You'll have to find one way or another to resolve whatever adversity that you're facing in life. There's a solution to every problem, even if we can't solve them ourselves. Worrying isn't a part of the solution.
It destroys our focus. It increases our stress level! It takes our peace! It completely distorts our thought process and it breeds fear and anxiety. The fear of what will happen next! The fear of I might not get out of this! The fear of this is bigger than me! The fear of there's nothing that I can do to help myself.
Worrying darkens our hope of a better future and the fact that nothing is permanent or things can change in a split second, no matter how dismal it seems. Please understand that worrying will not stop the bills from piling up!
Worrying will not stop the landlord from coming for the rent that you're behind on! Worrying will not feed or clothe your family! Worrying will not stop your relationships from failing! Worrying will not stop your boss from laying you off! Worrying will not change the sickness that you are diagnosed with, etc., because worrying does nothing to help any of us!
Prayer brings peace! It may not take all the problems away but it allows us to base our faith in a higher power that can make a way for every difficulty that we encounter in life; even if there's no immediate answer for whatever we might be going through. Things won't appear as bad as they seem, because we'll have an understanding that life has its challenges and we aren't exempt from them! That's why I pray more and worry less!
2. Stop trying to change people
It's not our responsibility to change anyone. We aren't God. People have to make the necessary changes within themselves. Stop trying to fix people! Stop raising your pressure on grown people who aren't doing what they know that they are supposed to, you'll go nuts. You can't fix them! You can't change anything about them unless they want to!
I remember my ex-partner had told me that his other partners had no issue with his messiness as if I was supposed to play along and be okay with it. I wasn't prepared to be telling a grown man to clean up after himself every day. He wasn't my child and I wasn't his maid!
Don't ever feel as though it's your responsibility to correct the issues in people's lives. They need to work on themselves! That's not your job! If they cared anything about your feelings they will take the necessary steps to do better.
You've got to learn to let go of things that you can't control. It's okay to want the best for people. It's okay to mean them well. Nothing is wrong with being there for them, but it shouldn't be at the cost of your peace of mind.
3. Avoid the company of gossipers
Anyone who's always coming to you with other people's business will eventually take your business to someone else. I don't keep company with gossipers. I don't need to hear any dirt on anyone. How will this knowledge profit me? How will it make my life better? Why is it that I need to know the latest buzz? I have enough of my issues that need working on.
I don't need to add unnecessary drama to my life. If it's not empowering and uplifting then I don't need to hear it, I have no use for it. I don't need anyone filling me in with other people's drama. Neither do I need anyone around me who's always badmouthing others because they'll do the same to me. I have no vacancy in my mental space for drama. I have more important things in my life that I need to devote my time to.
4.Complain less, express more gratitude
I read a quote from Fyodor Dostoyevsky that says, "Man only likes to count his troubles; he doesn't calculate his happiness." I couldn't agree more with this quote. There are many times when we tend to focus all our attention on what we don't have, and we forget how much we have been blessed with. Life itself is a blessing. If not our greatest blessing! Without life, we are absolutely nothing.
The dead can do nothing. If you live your life with an attitude of gratitude. You'll always be contented with what you have! I'm thankful each day for the breath in my body. It's an opportunity to make a difference! It's an opportunity to do something great! It's an opportunity to do better than I did yesterday! If I have a little or a lot I'm thankful because many are without anything!
5. Avoid people who reduce your self-worth
You don't need to hang out with anyone who refuses to see your true worth. It doesn't matter if they are friends or family. You don't need to be spending time with people who aren't doing anything to improve themselves, you'll become like them.
You don't need to be spending time with anyone who's constantly reminding you that you can become no better than your present state because of your past failures. Anyone who has a problem with you improving your life. With you wanting better for yourself, doesn't need to be in your life! You need to cut them off because they are reducing your worth.
If you've been working your fingers to the bone and your boss keeps overlooking you for a promotion, then you need to leave that job, and seek better for yourself. You'll die there in that position that you're currently in!
If you've been wanting to pursue your dreams and your family and friends aren't supporting you, then you need to move forward without their help. Anyone who has a problem with you becoming the best version of yourself is of no use to you!
6. Stop telling people your plans.
Sometimes you must keep the good news to yourself. You don't need to update your status! You don't need to post it all over social media. Not everyone is happy for you. Not everyone can handle the rate at which you're progressing. Not everyone wants to see you become successful. It's funny how the same people who saw you in your suffering, would want to see you remain there.
It's funny how they don't talk about your sleepless nights, the days you went without food, the times your cried, all the hardships you've endured to be at the place that you're at now. It's funny how they have a problem now that you're at a better place. You've got to understand that the spirit of envy is real and some people will use every opportunity to keep you down. Stop publicizing your dreams! Work in silence, let your success make the noise!
7. Acknowledge your faults but don't accept responsibility for anything you didn't doYou should never accept responsibility for something that you didn't do. Unless of course, you contributed to what happened and you need to make amends. If you didn't do anything, you must free yourself of the shame and guilt.
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