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How to make a tough decision when you can't decide.

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“ It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires a great deal of strength to decide what to do .” “We all make choices, but in the end our choices make us.” “If you always make the right decision, the safe decision, the one most people make, you will be the same as everyone else.” The hardest thing about the road not taken is that you never know where it might have led. Lisa Wingate Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life. Shannon L. Alder Every choice has a long afterlife of consequences. No one can know the eventual outcome of any decision. All you can do is make the best choice you can make at the moment. Cassandra Clare Life is about making choices. Every day we're faced with choices that will impact our lives in one way or the other. While some choices are easy, some are not so easy and there are times when we find ourselves in a tough spot where a decision ha

Being too nice, what's the price?

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Have you ever gotten the bitter end of things for being too nice? Has someone ever cut you out of traffic, or the supermarket line, embarrass you in public, or trifle with your emotions? Many of us are sincerely nice human beings, and we truly want to be good citizens of the world, but what is the cost of being too nice in a relationship,  at work, to a stranger?  "There are people who are going to expect you to always give in the extra mile, be the better one, be nice always. Those are not your people. Your people are the ones who will tell you to remove toxic individuals from your life, remove toxic friendships and relationships from your life, and break someone's car door window (and they'll help you do it too). Those are your people." C. JoyBell C. What's wrong with being too nice?πŸ€” These are commonly asked questions about being too nice: Is it weird to be too nice? Is being too nice toxic? Is being too nice a red flag? Why is being too nice a turn-off? Here&

Time moves fast, it waits for no one (Poem)

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Hindsight mourned my life of yesterday,  Tears meandered like streams through dark, lonely valleys, Time's faithful hands, years behind me, Oh, how time flies, Wishful thinking of all that could have been, Time lingers no more,  Hindsight scourged my life of yesterday,  Forgetting not a wasted moment,  Or the opportunities I've slighted along the way,  Procrastination has gotten the best of me, They say better late than never,   But late is sometimes too late, Tomorrow's never a promise for us to keep, Time waits for no one.  Annette Kinglock-Murray  © 2022  All  Rights Reserved  Read more poems: Sometimes I play the fool

Sometimes I play the fool (Poem)

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  Sometimes I play the fool, Weighing their loyalty against mine, Truth, error, blatant lies! Let them think I'm crazy, Tenderhearted, unblinded eyes,  Ruminating their meaningless thoughts, In the midst of their madness, senses awake, Feigned emotions, like musty air escaping their lips, Another favor, A dire need, A treasure to their soul, A scorching flame in mine, Ever wanting more, Nothing to give, Let them call me crazy, Clown's in town, Deafening  silence, eagles eyes, The show must go on,  Play the fool to catch the fool, They call themselves wise. PS: Some people will love you as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop. Annette Kinglock-Murray  © 2022 All Rights Reserved  Other poems: As if I wasn't made to feel  

How to become a better human.

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  We live in a world where it seems only the fittest of the fittest survive on the journey of life. As the world evolves and things and times change, fast. It seems our world is slowly losing its humanity. We don't need to look far to see the horrible effects of greed,  hatred, selfishness, and war. You may be wondering how you can make the world a better place. You can begin by being a better human.  Not just to people you've known all your life, but those you haven't had much contact with. These are 10 ways through which you can become a better human.  1. Put love into action.  Treat others the way you'd want to be treated. The same way that you wouldn't want others to trample your feelings and treat you as though you mean nothing to them. Give the love that you'd want for yourself. Show others that you truly care for them. Don't say one thing and mean the other. 2. Celebrate other people's success. Be happy for others when they are progressing in life

Things aren't always as they seem (Poem).

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°°°°°°•°°°°°°°°••••••°°°°°°•••••••°°°°°°°°•••••• She struts through the day like cakewalk, But only the night knows her well, The day's a tunnel vision,  She's the life of the party, A tower of strength, SΓΊper mujer! Only the night knows her truth, Mamma Mia!  Daytime shenanigans,  Obeisance of the night,  Knees  cuddled up to her chest, Smiles smothered in teardrops, Sipping bitter wine, Clutching musty cigarettes, Ugly cries, Truth conquers lies,  The skeletons  come out of her closet, Ain't no laughter for her puppet show,  Every heart knows its sorrow, Things aren't always as they seem, She smiles above the pain, A warrior at daylight, but Only the night knows her well! Annette Kinglock-Murray ©2022 All Rights Reserved Things don't always appear as they seem quotes “Things are not always what they seem; the first appearance deceives many; the intelligence of a few perceives what has been carefully hidden.”―  Phaedrus “All that glisters is not gold; Often have yo

Should you tell a friend everything?

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  "A friend today, could be an enemy tomorrow". A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.  Elbert Hubbard The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.  Bob Marley. Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you haven't learned anything.  Muhammad Ali I've witnessed the fall of a friendship recently, and when they spilled the beans things got ugly. They both said things they shouldn't have said, and the big question was. Were they ever friends? Many of us have either broken off friendships or witnessed other people who were no longer friends disclose things they've vowed to keep amongst themselves.  Should we tell our friends everything? If yes, what are your reasons for doing so? If not, what's your reason for not telling your friends everything? In forging friendships

As if I wasn't made to feel (Poem).

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  Poem about feeling empty, broken, and alone inside.   Happiness never lingers here, Sheer joy and peace a chasm, As if I wasn't made to feel, The rapture of loving arms consoling me, Or the pitiful pleas of this world, Being so empty and broken without me. As if I wasn't made to feel, The bounties of endless love, Soothing this bleeding heart within me, As if I wasn't made to feel, Loved by those I've truly loved, With every fiber of my being. As if I wasn't made to feel,  Truth in the eyes of someone, Who's longing to come home to me, It's never a haven, If emptiness and sorrow dwells there,  These broken pieces of mine,  Are all I'm left to feel. Annette Kinglock-Murray  All Rights Reserved  © 2022 Read more poems: The pain of loneliness  

How to stop trying to be liked by everyone.

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  “You can’t please everyone, and you can’t make everyone like you.” - Katie Couric “If you just set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.” - Margaret Thatcher “When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” - Jodi Picoult Imagine Sarah bought a hand-crafted gold necklace for her mother's birthday. As she anxiously presents her mother with the gift box. She whispers, ''I hope you like it.'' Today, many of us are like Sarah, anxiously hoping that others will like what we have to offer. We live in a social media era where likes and views for some people are the staff of life. Some have gone to the extreme of buying fake likes just to grab the attention of others and feel better about themselves. For those of us who aren't too much into social media, we still struggle with the want or need to be li

Do you know how to get what you want out of life?

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"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."  For many of us, it's easy to pinpoint all the things that we don't want out of life. The real challenge is working towards exactly what we want from life and achieving it. Life doesn't always steer us in the direction that we want it to go but the choices that we make or don't make do impact where we go, how far we go and the rewards we get from life. At this point in your life, can you honestly say that you have achieved any of the things that you have sought after in life? Or is it that you're still in the valley of decisions not knowing where to turn? You don't have to feel like a ship without a sail through life. Today I'll share with you a few tips that people who know what they want out of life do.  1. They have clear-cut goals.  People who know what they want out of life have clear-cut goals th