Is someone trying to avoid you?
“We must all work in harmony with each other to stand up for what is right, to speak up for what is fair, and to always voice any corrections so that the ignorant become informed and justice is never ignored. Every time a person allows an act of ignorance to happen, they delay our progress for true change. Every person, molecule, and thing matters. We become responsible for the actions of others the instant we become conscious of what they are doing wrong and fail to remind them of what is right.”
“Don’t start, initiate, or take on unnecessary battles. Some things can be walked over, prayed about or ignored.”
Have you noticed some indifference in another person's attitude towards you lately? They don't say hello the way they used to. They keep a straight face and not all smiles like you're used to. They don't make eye contact or return your calls and texts when you try to reach out to them.
Could it be that they're trying to avoid you? Maybe, they are! How can you tell if someone is trying to avoid you? Today, I'll share some common signs.
1. They choose not to call your name.
They intentionally make general references and avoid saying your name. They act as though you are someone that they know nothing about.
2. They don't make eye contact.
There's little to no eye contact when they're having a conversation with you. They're either walking and talking to you at the same time. Or not listening to anything that you're saying to them. They're unwilling to give you their undivided attention.
3. They go in the opposite direction to avoid making contact with you.
Whenever you're approaching them, they go in the opposite direction. If you're on the left, they'll take the right and vice versa.
They try to avoid instances where they'll have to stand or sit next to you. If it's a case where you have to work together. They'll choose someone else if they are given that option. They also try to avoid areas where they might bump into you.
4. They ignore your calls and texts.
You have a hard time reaching them via phone. They don't return your calls and texts promptly. There are times when you've noticed that they've blue ticked your messages and they're active online but they're just not responding.
5. They act like they're busy when you're talking to them.
They do little things to keep themselves occupied when you're talking to them. Browse through their phone, toggle with their mouse, scribble something down, talk to someone else, or glance over some printed material. They'll do just about anything to make themselves conveniently busy.
They limit your time to a few minutes or a couple of seconds. They often leave the conversation high and dry and show no interest in talking to you any further about whatever it is that you want to talk to them about.
6. They keep a straight face whenever you're around them.
They try to send a clear message that this is no laughing matter. It's as if they want you to just say what you have to say and leave. It's quite obvious that they are at odds with you. Their attitude is noticeably indifferent. Their tone is unfriendly, and their body language is unwelcoming.
7. Their conversations are brief.
They try to keep their conversations brief and to the point. There's hardly any room for further discussions, and there's never a convenient time where you can have a sit-down or one-on-one with them.
8. They only communicate with you if necessary and they prefer to use nonverbal communication.
They don't communicate with you unless there is a need to, and their preferred method of communication is non-verbal, even if you are within proximity to them.
9. They do things to drown you out.
The most common one is plugging in their earphones when you're around them. They'll also pretend not to hear anything that you're saying to them. Even though they might not be listening to any music, or the volume isn't that high to prevent them from hearing.
10. They act as if they don't know you.
You might be in a room with them and they don't acknowledge your presence. They'll greet everyone else except you. They'll also pass you by on the street without saying a word.
11. They cancel at the last minute.
Okay, so you've made some arrangements with them to do something. Initially, they agreed that they would be available for that time. However, they either cancel at the last minute or don't turn up at all.
You've also realized that they have done the same thing on quite a few occasions and it's becoming a pattern.
Why is someone avoiding you?
- You said something unkind about them and they heard it back.
- You're associated with someone that they don't like.
- You hurt someone close to them.
- You invaded their privacy.
- Someone told them that they shouldn't have anything to do with you.
- They can't handle your personality.
- You didn't grant them a favor.
- They saw you doing something that they disapprove of.
- They can't control or manipulate you.
- They no longer wish to associate themselves with you.
- They're having a low moment in their lives and they don't need much company.