How to quit feeling like the biggest loser in life.
You've been thinking about making a change in your life for the longest while. You've surmised that now is the right time to take that big leap of faith. Go on right ahead. Maybe you're thinking about putting an end to partying, smoking, drinking, lying, etc., to commit your life to God, or probably make yourself a better person for yourself, your loved ones, and society.
You can change your life for the better. Maybe you feel like a loser compared to others. You feel like a loser at work. You feel like a loser in life, etc. Here are a few things that you can do.
1. Take a social media detox.
Keep working on yourself! Social media is filled with toxicity. People have a way of resurrecting old photos, videos, and posts as a means of discrediting your efforts. Yes, some will encourage you, but others will tear you down. Try to keep things on the down-low, give social media a break.
Social media can help or hurt you. People are more into other people's lives than their own. Everyone sees everyone else's success online, and we allow it to magnify our own failure. Karen Civil
You don't need everyone's opinion. If you want to tell someone about your plans, try to find a few people that you can confide in. Talk to those who will offer you good words of encouragement. Be around those who are willing to support you on your journey. Be around those who will robust your support system. Avoid the noise of social media.
I just constantly tell myself that I should be the only one to define my worth and what I'm capable of and how I perceive myself. And that I should never source that worth from other people, especially strangers on social media. They don't know who I am, the length of my journey, who I am as a person. Catriona Gray
2. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Say good things about yourself. You may have sucked at many things in the past, but you must believe in yourself. A great way to start is by taking things slow. Set small goals for yourself. Don't expect to see big results overnight, you'll become discouraged. Be patient with yourself. Celebrate every step of your journey, no matter how small your improvements are.
Don't compare your journey to others. Great things take time and everyone goes at a different pace. If you're trying to lose weight, instead of celebrating when you've lost ten pounds. Commend yourself from the first day you begin your weight loss journey. That's a milestone, at least you've taken the first step. Many say that they will, but they never move a muscle. Keep finding ways to motivate yourself. They will empower you to accomplish your bigger goals. Go in baby stages, creep, walk, then run.
“You’re not obligated to win. You’re obligated to keep trying. To the best you can do every day.”
3. Be inspired by others.
Iron sharpens iron! One of the best ways to get encouragement is to listen to stories of those who overcame that which you're struggling with. It's difficult to relate to people who have no clue about what you're going through. For example, you've just found out that you have a benign tumor. Would you prefer to talk to someone who gives you random encouragement, or listen to a video of a six-year-old on Youtube who successfully fought cancer? Someone who's been through what you're going through is better able to understand your struggles and pain.
Whatever changes you are desirous of making in your life. Try to watch, read, or listen to as many inspirational stories of those who've overcome that which you want to get past. Their stories will embolden you. They will increase your faith. They will help in moments when you feel like giving up. I often watch videos from, Born different on Facebook. They are truly inspirational. I wish you all the best as you embark on this new phase of your life. God bless you!
“You were born a winner, a warrior, one who defied the odds by surviving the most gruesome battle of them all - the race to the egg. And now that you are a giant, why do you even doubt victory against smaller numbers and wider margins? The only walls that exist are those you have placed in your mind. And whatever obstacles you conceive, exist only because you have forgotten what you have already achieved.”
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