The Drama-Free Club

  How to not care what others think and be yourself!                                                                Self-love isn't just caring about ourselves and our needs. It allows others to experience the best of us. When we give the best to ourselves. We give the best of ourselves! This means that whoever we come in contact with they'll partake of our very best.  When we have an understanding of what it means to love, value, and appreciate ourselves. We'll pass that same energy to those with whom we come to encounter. When we learn to love all our imperfections.  It's easier to not judge people but embrace them in the way we'd want them to embrace us. That's why  Jesus said we should love our neighbors as ourselves.  What you wouldn't want anyone to do to you, don't do it to them. Don't hurt them. Don't lie to them. Don't break their trust. Don't use them. Just love them as yourself.  Unfortunately, we can never give love if we hav

  This post contains affiliate links. Please see the  disclaimer . Why failure is so important to success ?   Many successful people have said that failures taught them more lessons than success did.  Thomas Edison said, he didn't fail but tried 10000 ways that won't work.  Don't give up because your first attempt was unsuccessful. Try again! Many times we tend to focus on our losses and not the opportunities.  “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” – Napoleon Hill Click to Tweet “Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat.” – Napoleon Hill  Six good things about failures: 1. They reveal our weaknesses. We all have our weaknesses whether or not we want to admit them. The best part about this is that our weaknesses can be converted into strengths; if we choose to identify them and work on them. I remember my experience with Mathematics. It was a subject that I dreaded for the

              '' Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.'' Helen Keller How many times did you fall off your bike before you started riding it without the training wheels?  How many times did you scratch the car when you were learning to drive? There are so many things that you had to do repeatedly until you got them right, and there was a reason why you kept trying. You believed in yourself!            Those were the little things that boosted your confidence, even without you knowing. Those little promises that you made to yourself. I'll get it right next time! Those little moments when you chose endurance over giving up. They are what led to the big things. The next time you see someone doing what they do best, don't think that they were born prepared for it. It took them time to get there. The most influential life coach or motivational speaker is of no use to you, if you can't see the potential that they see in you

  What does it feel like to do things for ungrateful people? The act of ingratitude isn't anything new. All of us can relate to this in one way or the other. Maybe it's a spouse who doesn't appreciate anything that you do for them. Maybe it's a boss who never gives you credit for your hard work. Maybe it's a friend who walked out on you because you weren't available this time around, etc.   How do you deal with those who have expressed their ingratitude towards you? How do you handle the ingratitude of those whom you have done everything for? I can't say that this is an easy feat, but I will encourage you to keep these things in mind.  Always give without expecting anything in return; not everyone will appreciate the value of your sacrifices. It doesn't matter if you've placed yourself last so that their life can be better. It's just the way it is. Everyone doesn't have the same heart as you. It has taken me some time to accept the ingratitud

                                                     A Poem about victim blaming and sexual abuse  How will I ever slay this beast, If those who should plea my cause, Keeps severing my peace, It's all her fault, It's what she wanted, Don't believe anything she says, It's all a lie, How will I ever slay this beast, When my perpetrator's ego, Is of more value than my peace, They've turned their ears from hearing from my truth, They've hated me instead, I'm the perpetrator, they're the victim, Just a dose of my truth is too loud for their ears, It’s too bitter for them to digest, It’s not welcomed in their space, Yet, all these years I’ve kept it bottled within me, All the pain, guilt, and shame! Night and day, I’ve wrestled with this beast, But I’ve never found the strength that, Could set me free, From the fear that they wouldn’t believe me, Yet still, I thought, that with their help,  We could slay this beast, I’ve heard the truth makes you free, But

  What is Haiku? If you are unfamiliar with Haiku style poetry, it is a Japanese poem of seventeen syllables, in three lines of five, seven, and five, traditionally evoking images of the natural world.   What is a syllable? It is  a unit of pronunciation having one vowel sound, with or without surrounding consonants, forming the whole or a part of a word; for example, there are two syllables in  water  (wa-ter) and three in  inferno (in-fer-no). A Haiku poem has a total of seventeen syllables. B elow I've captured five stories of love, pain, mindfulness, and healing using this amazing style of poetry.  1. God God gave me His love, I gave Him my whole heart back, It belongs to Him!     2.  Depression  Underneath the smile, There is a familiar face, Crying out for help! Photo: Fernando Cabra Pexels. 3. Us I remember when, Nothing could come between us, We were happier! 4. Nature Embracing nature, Somewhere peaceful, time alone, Sheer reminiscent. 5. Healing Time brought me healin

      Heartbroken poem for husband and wife I’ve heard that the unlovable, Should be loved, But no one taught me how, I did the best that I could, Only to become the unloved, And those who should have Been my peace, my solace, My haven, Shredded my heart to pieces, Whatever is left of it, For my sanity must remain, I’ll give not my brokenness to be loved, I’ll go home to my maker, Let God place us in a cocoon, Maybe one day my love will morph, Into something beautiful, And whoever shall taste of my love, Will never feel unloved! Annette Kinglock-Murray, Poet All rights reserved. From my Poetry  book  Flickering Flames  ************************************************************** Heartbroken poem for your girlfriend   Today, you need her, Like the drought when it cries For the rain. But she'll never come, The same way you never came. For all her sacrifices, You gave her drought. At last, she's finally at peace, And now you know, That was t